As a follow-up to our article, here are more thoughts on navigating the often tricky waters of dating someone who is beginning to date after grieving the untimely loss of their partner or spouse – from Members of our own Widow/Widowers community here on e Harmony Advice, in their own words.
As you’ll see from the passages below, everyone’s reaction to their circumstance, opinions and experiences are going to be different, so it’s important to keep in mind the specific needs of your match as you progress.
How could I contemplate being someone’s girlfriend when I still felt like someone else’s faithful wife?
When — or if — to seek new love after being widowed remains one of life’s taboos.
Though I’d experienced nothing but encouragement from my and Graham’s friends and family, there will be people who read this and question, as I did many times, whether I should have moved on so quickly or even at all. There are people who don’t know what to say to you or, worse, say nothing and allow your friendship to wither.
Whether it was fair on Richard to enter into a relationship when I was still so torn and vulnerable. Others stand in your corner with a bucket and sponge as you attempt to navigate the emotional maelstrom that exists where your life used to be.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.Whether you are based in the busy environs of New York, the vast deserts of Texas or the golden sands of California, is here to help you connect with other widows or widowers living in your local area.For those seeking to meet somebody new after the loss of a spouse, it can often seem hard to know where to begin.You might find you have difficulty sleeping or you might lose your appetite, particularly in the first weeks and months after your partner has died.You might feel like withdrawing from friends and family, or you might feel that life has lost its meaning.