And if that is the case, walking out is the best option, for some people never change. You’re becoming non-confrontational as a person because they just don’t know how to rise above fights and arguments. But if two people connect with each other on the root level and have respect for each other, most fights get resolved with time. You’re not excited at all; in fact, all you think about is how to avoid arguments and fights. The cons of the relationship always seem to weigh the pros down. You’d rather avoid any conflict just because you’re scared they will turn it into a nasty fight. But if even the thought of making it work leaves you exhausted, you’re probably stuck with the wrong person. Sure, hindsight is 20/20, but if you are in the wrong relationship, you likely know it. A quick way to know if you are in a healthy relationship is to ask yourself if the person you are dating is making your life better. When we let people mistreat us, it takes a toll on other aspects of our lives too. And what's even scarier than the unknown in knowing that you're giving up on your own happiness.In retrospect, I can clearly identify early signs that my relationship was unhealthy. You can save yourself precious time and emotional turmoil when you read the signs early and make decisions accordingly. You’re always pretending to be someone else fearing they won’t approve of who you really are. They not only miss out on what you’re trying to say, they go on to a different tangent you just cannot relate with every time you start talking about something. You don’t even remember the last time you shared a ‘moment’ with them. They’re constantly doubtful and insecure about your loyalty. There’s a lot you want to do for them but it seems they don’t want your love. You’re constantly unsure of who you are in their presence. You can talk to them several times during the day but you just cannot imagine having a real conversation with them.
If you’re a feminist and all, you’d probably be thrilled about it, but that’s no feat to be proud of.Click here to read the introduction on is it time to dump your boyfriend?Do you ever wonder whether his imperfections make him cute or just bug the life out if you? A man who treats his peers and inferiors with disrespect is the same man who’d treat you with disrespect.Before I met my prince of a husband, I dated this guy I can't even think about for two seconds without cringing. We went on a cruise together and not only did I pay my own way, but I also bought my own drinks. Then he started dropping clues that I wasn't his type at all. I can find all sorts of ways to justify staying with him — we took cool trips, we did adventurous things like rappelling and mountain biking, but the relationship drained my spirit. Worse, I never seized my moment to let him know he’s a colossal cad and that I deserve to be treated better.Clearly we weren't right for each other but I ignored the signs in flashing neon lights and on billboards. He wore his bachelor status like it was a gift to all single women, everywhere. We hired a private fitness trainer together and he squeezed the back of my arm once and said, "There's muscle in there somewhere." (The fitness trainer was way nicer to me than my own boyfriend.) It didn’t take my best investigative skills to figure out my boyfriend liked skinny, make-up free and baseball hat-wearing women. Today, I'm joyfully married to an amazing man and we have beautiful twin toddler girls.